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Hi, I've decided to announce that I am pansexual. Since I was 16, I've known I've been attracted to both girls and boys, which I was able to find out due to watching The Owl House (great show btw.) When I saw Lgbtqia+ relationships normalised there, and I started digging deeper into the queer community. I thought about whether I truly was straight, as I had always had thoughts about romantically involved with men in some dreams, and I realised I was into men, thus I thought I was bisexual.
I was happy with my orientation for a while until about 6 months ago, when I found out more about queer characterisation, and I felt like I would love people no matter their orientation. I slowly realised that I was not bisexual, but in fact pansexual.
I have not come out to my family, as they are not very accomodating with queer people, they like to complain about how there are "too many queer designations", and I just kinda don't want to deal with that. I think this is a place that I can express who I am without any reprecussions, my parents most likely will support me, but I don't want to take any chances.
 
This is something I've known about myself for quite some time, spanning back to my teenage years, but largely kept it to myself out of embarrassment or some form of denial. I'm somewhere on the ace spectrum. Truthfully, I don't know where and don't think I ever will. I can and have had sexual attraction to others but rarely obtain pleasure from PIV sex regardless of who I'm with. I have a strong desire for kink-related play which is largely what keeps me from identifying in full as ace.

That said, I still just say I'm straight. I feel like my situation is too specific to explain to someone if they casually asked my sexuality (doesn't help that I'm extremely masculine facing and assumed to be straight). I also don't really feel any connection to the LGBTIQA community. I know there are some people that don't take it as seriously as someone that identifies as LGBT and that's okay. I don't care much for labels anyway as I think they just box you in whereas my personal belief is that everyone is somewhere on a spectrum of sexuality which makes coming to terms with one's identity easier for some than others.
 
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This is something I've known about myself for quite some time, spanning back to my teenage years, but largely kept it to myself out of embarrassment or some form of denial. I'm somewhere on the ace spectrum. Truthfully, I don't know where and don't think I ever will. I can and have had sexual attraction to others but rarely obtain pleasure from PIV sex regardless of who I'm with. I have a strong desire for kink-related play which is largely what keeps me from identifying in full as ace.

That said, I still just say I'm straight. I feel like my situation is too specific to explain to someone if they casually asked my sexuality (doesn't help that I'm extremely masculine facing and assumed to be straight). I also don't really feel any connection to the LGBTIQA community. I know there are some people that don't take it as seriously as someone that identifies as LGBT and that's okay. I don't care much for labels anyway as I think they just box you in whereas my personal belief is that everyone is somewhere on a spectrum of sexuality which makes coming to terms with one's identity easier for some than others.
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Hey friend, I've had a journey quite similar to this too and I'm happy you're finding a label (or lack thereof) that fits you!

There's no strict qualifications for what constitutes as ace, and you can definitely be both straight and ace and you can enjoy sex and still be ace, if that at all helps you in finding a definition that works for you. All that matters is your own happiness and comfort, there is no quota you have to meet, and we're all rooting for you!
 
Glad for this thread. I see the recent discussions and would be curious the context of why some feel certain types or self-defense are necessary and where. There is a huge variance. I live in the United States and never felt unsafe in the larger cities (250K + people), but am on my guard to bring attention to myself when travelling through small towns. The largest cities will often have many blocks of extremely gay friendly areas where queer people can at times outnumber straight people.
 
hi everyone.. just came by to say i think being non binary suits me better. after trying out identifying as a girl for idk like 3 years now i feel like what i was looking for the most is that freedom of self expression. i still like being referred to as a girl as well but i feel more comfortable with a more neutral approach to things .. im still trying to wrap my brain around it all but i just wanted to get this off my chest. thank you to all my friends for the love and support
 
I’m genderfluid bisexual but I live in an extremely Christian right wing household. My father in particular is a full blown MAGA cultist and pretty consistently goes on homophobic and transphobic tirades.

Because of this I’m extremely scared to come out or even risk my family accidentally being clued into my identity. I used to paint my nails for sometime but kinda stopped doing it after an incident where my car broke down and I didn’t have the tools to fix it with me, so I called my dad and the whole time he was helping me he was talking about how I would rather paint my nails than make sure my car is in working order (which again I just forgot to put tools back in my car). Not even many of my closest friends know about me, and those that do have to refer to me as he/him around my family (I prefer they/them mainly, and she/her to a lesser degree). While being active in the mons community has allowed me to express myself more comfortably in a way, it still kind of bothers me that I have to hide part of myself in real life until I’m able to move out, which is no easy thing to do where I live.

I also don’t hate my parents, I truly believe that they have my best interests at heart, they’re just, stuck in the past. I don’t want to cut ties with them, but I would like to be able to be myself too, it’s a really hard dilemma for me.
 
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It's really frustrating being a queer American right now, but it's so, SO relieving to see that people in other countries are still seeing massive progress. Big congrats to any LGBTQ+ Japanese people!!
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Was talking to a friend of mine and I have more good news for you, this time from Thailand
Briefly:
  • 400/415 members of the Lower House voted in favour of a bill that would recognize same-sex marriage
  • It would allow same-sex couples to adopt children, as well as gives them marital tax savings, the ability to inherit property, and the ability to make medical treatment consent
  • The bill needs approval from the Upper House, the Senate, and then needs Royal endorsement. It is expected to become law by the end of 2024.
    • If it becomes law, it would make Thailand the only southeast asian country to recognize same-sex marriage.
News source:
(I also heard some of what I wrote from said friend, so I'd recommend checking out the article + doing further reasearch because obviosuly "trust me bro" isn't a great source)
 
Aqua Jet said:
Was talking to a friend of mine and I have more good news for you, this time from Thailand
Briefly:
  • 400/415 members of the Lower House voted in favour of a bill that would recognize same-sex marriage
  • It would allow same-sex couples to adopt children, as well as gives them marital tax savings, the ability to inherit property, and the ability to make medical treatment consent
  • The bill needs approval from the Upper House, the Senate, and then needs Royal endorsement. It is expected to become law by the end of 2024.
    • If it becomes law, it would make Thailand the only southeast asian country to recognize same-sex marriage.
News source:
(I also heard some of what I wrote from said friend, so I'd recommend checking out the article + doing further reasearch because obviosuly "trust me bro" isn't a great source)
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Okay, I love asia, but let me say, asia is based af for decisions like these. I know there is most likely asian countries that are heavily anti-LGBTQIA+, but at least they are getting on the right track.
Western countries, step up and start doing stuff like this, inclusivity is very important.
 
It's so great that more and more countries legalize LGBTQ+ marriage and accept LGBTQ+ people. But some governments do the exact opposite. Russia's supreme court classified the "international LGBTQ+ movement" as "extremist" in november 2023. And now we have the first lawsuit/case based on this decision. The manager and the artistic director of an LGBTQ+ bar are in custody and will face a sentence of 10 years in prison if the court thinks they are "guilty".
 
trainer_j0nathan said:
It's so great that more and more countries legalize LGBTQ+ marriage and accept LGBTQ+ people. But some governments do the exact opposite. Russia's supreme court classified the "international LGBTQ+ movement" as "extremist" in november 2023. And now we have the first lawsuit/case based on this decision. The manager and the artistic director of an LGBTQ+ bar are in custody and will face a sentence of 10 years in prison if the court thinks they are "guilty".
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It may be because I only met Russian immigrants but every Russian person I talked to has been accepting of LGBT, and I met like 20+ of em. The gov may be heavily against them, but that doesn't neccessarily correlate to the opinions of the poeple. Look at Turkey, used to very progressive until the turn of the millenium, where right wing parties have started to find voters in the large turkish diasporas. As the currently ruling right wing party has become more authoritive, less and less people were able to display acceptance and it has become a taboo topic in society

Another example would be Serbia, my parent's home country. The majority of the population isn't political and doesn't particularly care about whether someone's gay or not. It's the very loud, very right wing, political minority that's anti LGBT
 
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It may be because I only met Russian immigrants but every Russian person I talked to has been accepting of LGBT, and I met like 20+ of em. The gov may be heavily against them, but that doesn't neccessarily correlate to the opinions of the poeple. Look at Turkey, used to very progressive until the turn of the millenium, where right wing parties have started to find voters in the large turkish diasporas. As the currently ruling right wing party has become more authoritive, less and less people were able to display acceptance and it has become a taboo topic in society

Another example would be Serbia, my parent's home country. The majority of the population isn't political and doesn't particularly care about whether someone's gay or not. It's the very loud, very right wing, political minority that's anti LGBT
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You are so right. I wasn't trying to frame the russian people, they are not the problem. (I'm sorry if my post implies that). Literally every russian/belarusian I personally know is an ally.
It's the government/people in charge who are the problem. It's pretty much impossible to demonstrate or say anything critical about the government in a totalitarian system like russia cause they'll just put you in prison.
 
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It's so great that more and more countries legalize LGBTQ+ marriage and accept LGBTQ+ people. But some governments do the exact opposite. Russia's supreme court classified the "international LGBTQ+ movement" as "extremist" in november 2023. And now we have the first lawsuit/case based on this decision. The manager and the artistic director of an LGBTQ+ bar are in custody and will face a sentence of 10 years in prison if the court thinks they are "guilty".
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not to get political but like russia of all governments doesn't have the right to declare anything a terrorist movement lmao even their own citizens (rightfully) hate them.

most people from russia who ive met are either accepting or lgbtq thenselves
 
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most people from russia who ive met are either accepting or lgbtq thenselves
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This just isn't true, reliable polling indicates the majority of Russians support legal discrimination against sexual minorities. Russia's government actively promoted homophobic campaigns to take over school curricula in much the same way we are seeing in the United States. There is a multi-million dollar war chest used by the Russian government to promote homophobia and transphobia around the world. I'm sure the Russian people you know aren't concerned but Russia is an extremely homophobic society.
 
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This just isn't true, reliable polling indicates the majority of Russians support legal discrimination against sexual minorities. Russia's government actively promoted homophobic campaigns to take over school curricula in much the same way we are seeing in the United States. There is a multi-million dollar war chest used by the Russian government to promote homophobia and transphobia around the world. I'm sure the Russian people you know aren't concerned but Russia is an extremely homophobic society.
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I mean sure, but I wasn't rly talking about the society as a whole hence "people I've met" instead of most Russian people lmao. I'm sure your sources are accurate but I was talking about my personal experience :p
 
For those who have been doing HRT for a while, when did you notice any main tangible physical results?

I guess I should say that I’ve came out as trans female over a year ago and have been on HRT for over 9 months now. I’ve lost about 60/65 pounds throughout the course of my transition (started at 230 and now at ~165), and while I’ve definitely noticed some changes, I can’t tell if it’s from HRT or just the weight loss. My skin has definitely softened up, but all I see is MAN and I rarely get gender affirmed even when trying to pass.
 
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For those who have been doing HRT for a while, when did you notice any main tangible physical results?

I guess I should say that I’ve came out as trans female over a year ago and have been on HRT for over 9 months now. I’ve lost about 60/65 pounds throughout the course of my transition (started at 230 and now at ~165), and while I’ve definitely noticed some changes, I can’t tell if it’s from HRT or just the weight loss. My skin has definitely softened up, but all I see is MAN and I rarely get gender affirmed even when trying to pass.
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It's great seeing people grow from their TU days. Idk much about HRT but it might take a bit but you'll get to a spot where you recognise the real you in the mirror friendo <3
 
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